Economic Abuse

This was my exhusband when we were married. I was constantly told I was selfish for spending funds on things such as my life saving medications and femenine essentials. He kept such a tight leash on the money that when we split, I had exactly 32 bucks in my checking account. Come to find out, he was blowing money on the stock market off credit cards while I was sleeping and using MY paychecks to pay them off in secret out of our joint checking account that I had no access to.

This came about because our temple marriage prep class actually ENCOURAGED the men to take control of ALL household funds and dole out money to the wives to pay the bills and get the household things. It TOLD the husbands to handle all the funds and not "worry" the wives with the troubles of dealing with the banks as it could be too stressful for us while working towards having children.

I have a vice grip on my money now and refuse to allow my fiance access, he has his account, I have mine and never shall the two meet. We each take a few bills and pay them ourselves while telling the other when we need help to make a payment or to get something. Generally, if one doesn't have the money, the other does.


economic abuse

just a short prayer...

My job interview is in less than 48 hours. I pray to God I get this job. He knows I need this to get my life on the proper track. I pray his will is in the path of mine and this job is my path in this next stage of my life.

Perhaps we all need to open our eyes?

Perhaps we need to open our eyes and read between the lines?

Just watching some news that isn't really tied to any major network.

Female thinking

Watching an episode of Dr. Phil about "Ride or Die" Women.... First off, what the HELL are these women thinking?! Staying with a man who cheats on you every chance he gets?! When he refuses to straighten out his life and is constantly in and out of prison AND doing drugs?! Really?! Is this the example that women are setting for their daughters? That if you act like a fool you'll get to keep a man? I swear this makes my head hurt! To make it worse, they think this is alright...

*sigh* People bug me at times.

Serin out

Readings and Musings

From middle class to homeless and the fight to survive

Read this interesting article today and it seriously opened my eyes to the plight facing the US today. More and more people who are hard working people are finding themselves with out homes and a way to survive. The woman this article features is about my age and that truly saddens me to no end. And yet I just saw on the news how we, the US are leaping to the aid of foreign countries when we can't even solve our own economic issues. This is a very sad day for me given that she, like so many others have so much to offer and the government has done nothing to fix it.

I'm also reading a book by Dog the Bounty Hunter and it's very fascinating to me since it's his second book and more focused on his life now that he has his show and the ups and downs it's caused for him and his family.

Reading

So I've been reading about this Tiger mom thing and I have to say the woman is nuts! No matter what she says her kids are not well adjusted! They no nothing of how to relax and have fun! Nor did they get the chance to date and explore while growing up. Now they have to do all that as adults and have the emotional growth markers at a time when they are suppose to be learning about being an adult. This is the insanity that makes kids into horrid bosses and co-workers.


I've also been reading stuff in the news about things going on in my city and I hope it settles down. Though I am moving a city down it will always be my home town. No, I won't ever say where I come from exactly since this blog is ment to be a place to express myself with out locals figuring out who I am. That being said, I can freely say I'm from California and that's about it.


Serin out